Don’t Be Late—or Annoying!

What’s worse than fingernails on a chalkboard? A boisterous board member at a prayer meeting.


by Dan Busby and John Pearson


Many boards have at least one dysfunctional board member.
If you don’t know who that person is, it may be you!


There was good news, and there was bad news. And, of course, it included a troublemaker.

That’s how we described an afternoon board meeting we facilitated. Let’s start with the bad news.

Prior to a special meeting focused on a major issue, the board gathered first for prayer and discernment. In teams of three around the boardroom, each group quietly discussed several core questions then prayed together.

There was clearly a spirit of unity—almost an aroma of joyous expectation. That is, until the one latecomer interrupted the holy quietness with a slammed door and his equally annoying (and unnecessary) greetings.

“Hey, everyone! Sorry I’m late! What’s going on? You all in groups? Where’s my group? Whatcha working on?”

Not quite fingernails on the chalkboard, but close. (Maybe he had forgotten to take his medication.) Eugene Peterson pegs this person in Proverbs 29:11 MSG: “A fool lets it all hang out; a sage quietly mulls it over.”

The “sweet, sweet spirit in this place” had left the room to be replaced by a boisterous, inconsiderate board member. He joined a group of his own choosing but continued to voice his questions and comments at decibel levels more in tune with a Major League Baseball game.

What’s the good news? In spite of Mr. Uncouth, the board made progress. Using green (yes) and red (no) straw-vote cards, the board weighed in on several dozen initiatives then prioritized the few that were especially aligned with the organization’s mission, vision, and core values.

The board chair was able to tone down Mr. Uncouth by intentionally engaging all the board members, especially those who tended to remain quiet, but when given the opportunity, had great insights to share. The result was a fully engaged and unified board.

Bad news: Some board members are clueless, late to meetings, unprepared, and hog the conversation.

Good news: Grace abounds. We can discern how to leverage their gifts anyway, and in the future, we can also conduct more due diligence through reference checks during the board recruitment process. (“How is Sam in a group setting? Is he a good listener? On time? Respectful of others?”)

Bad news: When board meetings involve only talking heads, endless reports, and no time for deep engage­ment, you’ll create an expectation of low expectations. 

Good news: When you intentionally create time and space in board meetings for all board members to engage, you’ll often be blessed with extraordinary insights, wisdom, and spiritual discernment.



Create a board culture that gives your board chair
permission to affirm and reprimand both ends
of the continuum: expressive and sometimes boisterous
board members but also way-too-quiet board members
who have wisdom to share.
Strike a balance and bless the board
so deep engagement becomes the norm.

  Board Action Steps:

  1. Affirm: Try this at your next board meeting (by prior delegation): Before the gavel signals adjournment time, ask your best listener on the board to go around the room with a brief kudo for each board member’s input during the meeting.

  • “Jack, wow! Thanks for your suggestion on the Thanks for your suggestion on the ABC Project. That was so innovative.”

  • “Jill, when we were fumbling all over our revised amendments and missing the import of that outreach opportunity, you called us to prayer. Those five minutes of spiritual refreshment may have been the most important five minutes of our meeting.”
  • “Alberto, I’ve noticed that you are always early to our meetings and always helping Guy with the materials, coffee, snacks, and good humor. Your hospitality gifts are a blessing to all of us.”
  1. Reinforce: You get the idea. Reinforce the good news and, Lord willing, you’ll have less bad news.



Lord, if I’m the boisterous (and maybe annoying)
board member at our table, help me to tone it down.
And if I’m too quiet or too timid too often,
help me recognize Your Holy Spirit nudges to speak up. Amen.


From Lessons From the Church Boardroom: 40 Insights for Exceptional Governance, ECFAPress, 2018, www.ECFA.Church/KnowledgeCenter.

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